Your sexual lifestyle is important. Amongst other things, it's about understanding your body, knowing which forms of contraception are right for you and also knowing more about STI's so you can help protect yourself. It's also about knowing how to spice up your sex life to achieve ultimate satifaction!
Lots of hints and tips about how to a achieve a more healthy and rewarding sex life.
1. In The Mood
Only you – and your partner – can ultimately decide what’s right for the both of you.
And we don’t have the space or time here to go through a complete A to Z of every possible proposition, position and permutation.
But, we do know that it’s not money that makes the world go round. It’s making love/ having sex/ doing what comes naturally…whatever you want to call it.
And over the years, we picked up enough to be able to offer a few hints and tips on how to get things started.
So here we go…let’s begin with body language.
If you want to find out what someone’s really thinking, don’t look into their eyes, look at their feet. When you’re flirting with someone, your feet will be pointing towards them - subconsciously, indicating an attraction. If their feet are pointing back at you, then the feeling is mutual. Men like to preen themselves in front of someone they are attracted to. Whether it’s their hair or their outfit, if a man is making sure he is looking at his best, then you know you've got their attention!
Similarly, women like to groom themselves in front of potential partners, generally through playing with their hair or licking their lips. Women also expose their wrists to those they are interested in romantically. The touching and stroking of wrists is considered erotic as it accentuates the pulse points. Body language is a great way of finding out what's going on in someone's mind, but remember it's not always guaranteed; so don't take what you see too literally!
2. Creating The Right Atmosphere
It is argued by many that ambience plays just as big a part in a love making experience as any other aspect of sex and yet it is often completely overlooked. The key to creating the right atmosphere is to think about the five senses and try to create an atmosphere that appeals to all of them.
Beginning with touch, it is important to make sure that the environment in which you are making love is as aesthetically pleasing as possible. Think about the basics such as clean, crisp bed linen through to exotic tactile treats like feathers or ice cubes.
Sight could be stimulated by anything from a surprise of sexy underwear to the soft, seductive candle light. And those candles could also appeal to your partner's sense of smell, especially if you try burning some scented candles.
If candles aren't your thing then try flowers instead; they're more subtle but they will help make any room smell nice. On to taste - and everyone knows that certain foods like oysters are supposed to have ‘magical’ aphrodisiacal qualities. But if your partner would rather stick to a plainer menu, so be it.
The final sense is hearing and the obvious way to appeal to this sense is through music. Everyone will have their own seductive soundtrack, but subtle background ‘mood music’ is probably your best bet.
3. Foreplay
Nearly there… but it’s important to always keep reminding yourself that great sex will never just be about penetration – the build-up is a very important part. In fact most women can't reach orgasm without it. If just the thought of sex is enough to get you raring, slow down a bit – your partner may want to take a little more time. Women generally take longer to become sexually aroused than men. So foreplay will increase the chances of orgasm for women and will produce a more intense one for men. And those erogenous zones are there for a reason – make the most of them.
There are erogenous zones all over the body, not just in the genitals. Try out a few different things to find out what your partner likes best. You might like to think about massage too. Sensual massage is an ancient practice, performed by old and young alike. It combines the physical with the spiritual and, if done well, can be just as sensual and sexual as you want it to be. For the real deal, you may also like to try some massage lube.
Here, the key to success is taking your time – and the biggest rule is…don't rush.
4. Condoms
Condoms in one shape or form have been around for literally thousands of years. But now, with new technology, they’re thinner and more sensitive than ever – in fact, you would hardly know you were wearing one.
They can even put a bit of spice into your sex life and remember that a little protection can go a long way. They are now an essential part of modern-day living and help protect from sexually transmitted infections (STI) and unplanned pregnancies – they can even enhance sex. They come in all shapes and sizes and you can use different condoms for different occasions. Durex even has an Easy On range which is uniquely shaped, so each one is more comfortable to wear and easier to roll on.
5. Lubes
Many people dismiss the idea of using a lube, thinking they’re exclusively for older couples, or only for use during anal sex.
But there are 1001 reasons to use a lube.
Symptoms can be brought on by the menopause, but changes in hormone levels during different stages of the menstrual cycle can also be the cause. The use of tampons, drugs, alcohol, perfumed soaps or bubble baths – even diabetes and stress, have all been cited as causes. It’s experienced by women of all ages and lifestyles and is more common than you think.
In amongst the huge array of lubes available today, there are water based versions that are lighter compared to silicone-based that offer slightly longer lasting lubrication. Most lubes are suitable for use during vaginal, anal and oral sex – just make sure you check the label and it’s important to use a condom-friendly lube if you’re using a condom too. Lubes are essential for anal sex because the anus and rectum don’t produce any natural lubrication.
6. Vibrators
It may be quite a shock to think of your great-grandmother enjoying her vibrator – even if it did look like a piece of heavy machinery. But, at the turn of the century, a ladies’ boudoir wasn’t complete without one of these new, exciting contraptions. Since then, it’s been a long journey to get the vibrator out of the porn film and back into the bedroom. Thankfully, today’s vibrators are discreet and tastefully styled…looking more like modern sculpture than anything too anatomical.
And those smooth, sleek lines are actually ergonomically designed to sweep across the body leaving a trail of pure pleasure. It’s true to say that some are specifically designed for vaginal penetration. However, many more are designed towards mutual massage during foreplay making them a shared rather than singular treat.
7. And Finally
Whether you want to work your way page-by-page through the Karma Sutra, or stick to a few tried-and-tested favourites..... ...just remember…it takes two to tango.
So make sure the pleasure’s shared out equally as well.
The only other rule…apart from ‘there are no rules’…is probably, ‘if it doesn’t come naturally, leave it’.
p/s: Every people needs sex.. for married people, need this tips for your happiness.. =P
